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With the appearance of the baby, parents have a lot of difficult questions, but one thing they know for sure: the regime needs a crumb like air. At least so say grandmothers. But is it worthwhile to follow the footsteps of the older generation and drive yourself into a rigid framework or in an era of total liberalism you can still loosen the reins?

In Soviet times, the life of the baby was painted by the minute. The slightest deviation from the norm was actively criticized by the pediatrician, and relatives, and neighbors. Modern doctors give parents much more freedom and even recommend to reckon with their own biorhythms, but they still do not advise completely to abandon the regime. First of all, because it allows you to solve at once two burning tasks: lay the foundation for the harmonious development of the baby and ease the fate of adults.

The main role of the regime is adaptive: a clear schedule gives important guidelines to the entire body. Between the digestive and nervous systems there is a direct relationship, and if both are taught to live on schedule, it will become easier for them to work. When the baby feeds on a strict schedule, at the right time digestive enzymes, gastric juices and bile are produced, so that the stool also departs regularly. If the crumb goes to bed at one time, the brain at the usual hour itself gives the body a signal to go off. Thus, both sleep and hunger are regulated automatically, without external stimuli and unnecessary efforts on the part of parents. Walks also do a good deed: they teach the crumb to distinguish between day and night due to special receptors on the skin that catch light. Steady habits are important for psychological comfort. Every little child in the soul is a conservative, so it is important for him to feel safe. And this basic need will again help satisfy the regime.

Miracles of adaptation

Does this mean that mom needs to feed, bathe, walk, lay and awaken the crumb with a stopwatch in her hands, neglecting her own desires and needs? Modern pediatricians do not approve of this approach. The baby will grow happy and contented only if his mother is happy and happy. This axiom and became the main incentive to review the old rules. If the "owl" from the sense of parental duty will wake up at dawn, nothing good will come of it. Fatigue will accumulate, and one day the nerves of a young mother will be given up. Then the child, and the father, and others will suffer morally, therefore such scenario is obviously hopeless.

Despite the fact that the family way will still change, the regime of the baby should be convenient for everyone. Parents also have the right to defend their interests, especially since the little one is perfectly able to adjust to given circumstances. Biorhythms of the mother he learns to distinguish during the period of intrauterine development. When she is awake, he hears the sound of her voice, the noise of the TV, music, and when she sleeps or rests she only distinguishes between the heartbeat and the work of the intestine. To the regime of mother, many children get used so much that after birth they begin to copy it. Accordingly, if during the pregnancy you went to bed at 2 am, then you should not be surprised that at 8 pm the child does not think to close the eyes are clear.

It's just as easy for a toddler to adapt to the family's leisure. Provided that the baby is healthy, nothing prevents parents to lead an active lifestyle, because the main role in this matter is played by the mother's mood. If she does not make problems from a joint trip to the store or to visit, the child is more likely to endure "secular receptions" calmly.

How soon to begin to form useful reflexes, parents also decide. In the first year of life, the regime does not play a crucial role, especially if the mother has the opportunity to stay at home with the baby. The question arises when she decides to go to work or give crumbs to a kindergarten. And, of course, you need to prepare a child for such changes in advance.

The optimal schedule of the day will help to paint the pediatrician taking into account the pace of development and the state of health of the baby. All the norms that are given in the pediatric reference books are conditional: they only specify the amplitude admissible for a particular age, so one needs to be guided only by its lower and upper boundaries.

Approximate schedule / from 1 year to 5 years /

Small "larks" can get up at 6.00 and go to bed at 19.00, and "owls" - wake up at 8.00 (at the latest - at 12.00) and fall asleep at 21.00. The chart below is just one of the recommended options.

8.00 am the rise

9.00 - breakfast

10.00 - 12.00 - walk

12.30 - 13.00 - lunch

13.00 - 15.00 or 16.00 - daytime sleep

15.30 - 16.00 - afternoon snack

17.00 - 19.00 - walk

19.00 - 19.30 - supper

20.30 - 21.00 - evening fairy tale

21.00 hrs.

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Individual pace

Having discovered that each child has a different eating rhythm, scientists recently approved a free feeding schedule in the first months after birth. Nevertheless, it is not necessary to resort to it without consulting a pediatrician. For example, premature and small children eat according to a very special scheme. When colic, constipation, frequent regurgitation also requires adjustments. To take into account all the nuances and suggest the best option is only a doctor.

For a landmark, it is reasonable to only take the average rate: children usually eat up to 3 months with an interval of 3 hours, from 3 to 6 months - in 3.5-4 hours, from 6 months to 1 year - in 4-5 hours. In this case, the universal recommendations are as follows: if the crumb is breastfed, the pause between meals should be at least 1.5-2 hours, because mother's milk is digested in just 72 minutes. The assimilation of the mixture takes twice as long, so the interval between meals on artificial feeding, as a rule, is at least 3-3.5 hours. On an "adult" schedule and 4 meals (breakfast, lunch, afternoon tea, dinner), children usually go after a year. Although this can happen sooner or later, everything is purely individual.

Quiet hour

Like adults, some children sleep more, others less, but general patterns still exist, although in different countries and in different pediatric schools, the numbers are not the same. Thus, according to the observations of Soviet specialists, children under the age of 3 months sleep about 19 hours, from 3 to 5 months - 17, from 6 to 8 months - 15, from 9 months to 2 years - 13, from 4 to 5 years - 11 , 5, from 6 to 9 years - 10. At the same time, falling asleep at any age requires about 30-40 minutes.

However, modern pediatricians are forced to make a discount on the frantic pace of social life. The current children by definition sleep less, because their nervous system is more excitable. And often because of the parents. A typical scenario: the dad chronically lingers in the office or gets into traffic jams, as a result, home comes late. But my mother does not put her bed to sleep, because her husband likes to take part in evening bathing. As a result, at best, the baby is overexcited and can not fall asleep for a long time, and at worst, due to constant lack of sleep, his immunity decreases and he often begins to get sick. The situation is aggravated by the fact that in modern sapiens (large and small) mental activity prevails over physical. When the latter does not find an outlet, the dream is broken and becomes shorter.

Quiet hour тоже очень важен для ребенка: его непременно следует включать в режим дня как минимум до 4 лет. До 6 месяцев дети спят по 2–2,5 часа 3 раза в день, к концу первого года жизни – 1–2 раза, к 1,5–2 годам – один. Переход от двукратной сиесты к однократной может занять некоторое время. Чтобы принять верное решение, в такой промежуточный период нужно учитывать эмоциональное состояние малыша, погоду за окном, время года и насыщенность дневной программы. Иногда стоит настоять на своем, а иногда довериться ребенку.

The same should be done when it is time to abandon the siesta. If the baby decides to cancel this habit before the age of 4, it is better to compromise and instead of daytime sleep make a day's rest: lie down together on the bed and read a fairy tale. So the crumb will get the necessary respite for the not yet strengthened nervous system and can properly relax. However, with a child who goes to a kindergarten, such a maneuver can not be applied. There are two ways out: either wake him early in the morning so that he can get tired by dinner, or take him home until the quiet hour. To insist on a day's sleep is possible only in the event that in the early evening the kid is greatly overexcited, capricious, rolls up hysterics. This is a sure sign that the nervous system can not stand the load and needs extra hours of rest. If the crumb, on the contrary, sleeps during the day long and with pleasure, and falls asleep well in the evening, it is not necessary to awake him.

Weighted approach

On weekends, during holidays or holidays, the rhythm of life changes in almost every family. Pediatricians are sensitive to this state of affairs, but do not recommend shifting the usual schedule by more than 1-1.5 hours. In real conditions, it is rather difficult to keep within such a framework. A small child is focused on active knowledge of the surrounding world, so his excitement, especially on vacation, is more than natural. The parents' task is to rationally dose fresh impressions and not make tragedy due to forced indulgences.

To each his own There are four types of nervous system, which correspond to four types of temperament: balanced (sanguine), excitable (choleric), slow (phlegmatic) and weak (melancholic). On one or another track we get literally from the diapers, and it is better to keep in mind when drawing up the optimal regime. Balanced type - quiet children, crying seldom and only on a serious occasion, quickly fall asleep even with a strong noise. They are famous for their good appetite. To new people, new food and changes in the schedule get used without problems. Slow type - kids, restrained in their emotions, cry rarely, sleep long and hard (they do not need absolute silence either), they do not complain about their appetite. But they are not too mobile, so their motor skills are formed more slowly: they later sit down, later get up and later start walking. The amendments to the regime are tolerable. Excitable type - children, vigorously showing feelings and quickly changing mood. They fall asleep badly, sleep sensitively, so they need silence, a semi-darkness, a peaceful atmosphere. Capricious in eating, but because they need to be fed in a strictly fixed place and always according to the usual pattern. Weak type - vulnerable, insecure, melancholic kids require increased attention from adults. Cry often, sleep restlessly, wake up from the slightest rustle. Appetite is changeable and unstable. A clear daily routine is a direct guarantee of their health.