To remove scattered toys for a child, arrange books on a shelf or neatly fold clothes is certainly easier and quicker than to seek fulfillment of these actions from himself. But to accustom a crumb to the order it is possible and necessary from the very early age. Believe me, it's easy! You need only a little free time, patience and imagination. Game of cleaning
"My daughter is 2 years old, how to teach her to order? She shows great interest in home affairs, but her "help", as a rule, adds to my efforts. " Anastasia, 32 years old
The two-year-old does not yet have an idea of the order. His interest in the economy is not based on a conscious desire to clean up, but on imitation of adults and partly on the desire to make them enjoyable. Using these two main driving forces, you can teach a lot to even a whole lot of crumbs. For example, the fact that every thing has and must have its place. Begin with the teaching of the child not to throw the jacket anywhere, but to hang it on a special hook in the hallway. Gently place the shoes. Take the dishes into the sink after eating. Two-year-old, who has already discovered the law of constancy of objects, is likely to enthusiastically accept the game "Put everything in its place." Just do not try to explain all the rules at once. Gradualness and consistency are no less important than exactingness and perseverance. Remember that all this training for crumbs is a game, and the more fascinating it is, and the rules are clearer, the more it will be a great pleasure to participate in it. Some children prefer expensive clothespins, dishwashing sponges, brushes and spray guns with water. The child explores the surrounding world, imitating adults and using the same objects as they. Unfortunately, sometimes parents are more likely to give the baby a computer mouse than a shoe brush. Making household chores is simpler, faster, more effective, and learning a child is not easy and boring. You may not have the patience to show you again and again how to send garbage to the scoop, not in the opposite direction. But the meaning of these efforts is not only to raise yourself an assistant or assistant. Carrying out work at home, the child learns: his motor skills are improved, the number of neural connections increases, the muscles of the body are trained, all mental functions - perception, attention, memory, imagination and thinking develop. He becomes more confident in his abilities and independent, receives the first organizational skills, learns to work "in a team."
Of course, from time to time a two-year-old will improvise: at your request, he will carry his socks into a basket for dirty laundry ... to immediately extract them from it along with the rest of the contents. Well, the game is a game and learning is learning! Sometimes it's hard to restrain yourself at the sight of a creative mess done by a small helper, but you should not scold a child for a broken plate or an inverted dog bowl. After all, you would not do it, if your girlfriend were at the place of the baby? Better show the crumb how to eliminate the consequences of his oversight. Or maybe he himself knows what to do with garbage? Be sure to ask him about it. And where lie the scoop and the broom? The most important thing is that the kid is not afraid to make a mistake, then in two years you will be able to train him with a lot of useful skills.Expand on shelves
"Eve is three years old. She gladly helps me vacuuming, watering flowers, loading a washing machine and hanging clothes, but if I ask her to remove the toys in the nursery - enthusiasm as it has not happened. " Antonina, 30 years old
Doing something with your mother is nice and interesting, and if you are praised for it, the three-year-old is ready to do it practically all day long. It is quite another matter to carry out an uneasy task on its own, which is also not fully understood. Three years still need your help to plan your actions. Where to begin? Where to put toys, and where books? Why can not you just dump everything in the closet and close the door, it's faster, and the room looks cleaned. Even if the kid has seen many times how you do the cleaning, he needs personal practice. In three years the child is able to understand the meaning of cleaning, but we will be realistic: his goal is not at all order and cleanliness in the room, but your approval, praise. Your love. He himself can play both in a perfectly cleaned room, and in complete chaos - because during the game he is in another world. To succeed in learning at this stage, try to combine the two aspirations of the baby - to play with your mother and earn praise. Turn cleaning into a game and learn how to praise properly. Once and for all, give up notations and complaints about the fact that no one wants to help you. Use the "Tom Sawyer method", try to infect your baby with your enthusiasm. Many children like home appliances, they gladly learn to use a washing machine, a dishwasher, a vacuum cleaner, help squeeze out juice and grind vegetables ... But manual work can be just as exciting! It is useful to purchase tools, for example a scoop and a brush of the corresponding child size. They are more convenient to use, in addition, in three years the kids already like to have something of their own. Let the child have his own small watering can for flowers, his bright dust cloth, a small spray with water and special clothes for cleaning. With such an arsenal, doing household chores will become much more interesting. But the most important acquisition for a child is a sufficient number of boxes for toys, preferably of different color and size. Sorting objects is one of their main skills that a child must learn before school. Open any developing technique - and you will find a lot of games and assignments for practicing this particular skill. But you can train it not only according to the textbook, cleaning is irreplaceable: the kid will manipulate the usual objects, which means that the theory and practice will be inseparable.
The categorization of objects is not an easy task, and here, as in the development of any complex and important skill, it will be necessary to act in several stages. At first, the kid will distribute the items to groups under your guidance. Explain to him why you put the "Lego" in one box, and the machines in the other, why books are on the shelf, and not under the bed and why a wet towel can not be left on the floor ... Just do not forget that the child will not be able to remember more than three recommendations at a time. Do not hurry! Enjoy the joint cleaning: it can be very exciting. And cheerful: after all if you have time, you can dream up and come up with what kind of sign you can still group objects, or play in the game "What's unnecessary?". This is an excellent training of logical thinking. At the next stage, your task is to motivate the child to independently search for a place for each thing. Use bright labels on shelves and on boxes - these can be pictures or photos. If a crumb likes to draw, he can paint a garage on a box for cars, and if he is already learning to write and read, then he will choose and write a word for the title of each category. Then the child does almost everything himself, and you only supply him with instructions and prompts. A good idea is to hang up a poster with pictures depicting the sequence of actions when cleaning the room. Sometimes, if the child is easily distracted, parents use a timer. You can write your favorite songs on the baby's CD and short understandable tasks: "Collect the cubes in the drawer while Masha sings a song about the sun" or "Try to clean the bed before the song of Vodyanoy ends." At any stage, do not forget to praise the child, naming the important quality that he showed - accuracy, attention, organization, purposefulness: "Wow, you collected all the details of the puzzle, not missing a single one. What are you attentive! "Or" Today you did not forget to turn off the light in the bathroom and in your room when you went to the kindergarten. This is a businesslike! "And one more important advice: continue to support and guide the child until he has mastered the skill in perfection.When the house is upside down
"Petya is 4 years old and he likes to shake toys out of all boxes on the floor, sometimes just to take just one and play with it amidst total chaos. It annoys me. In addition, his attention is constantly shifted from one subject to another, he can not concentrate on the game, starts to get nervous and quickly gets tired. " Елена, 27 years old
It's really annoying. After all, to collect toys, it takes much more time than to scatter them. And nevertheless, we must respect the child's right to choose: in this case, he chooses how to play it. Watch him. Not always children arrange a mess just to attract the attention of their parents. If a child is able to play long enough with one toy, when the rest simply lie around, then his ability to focus attention on one subject does not suffer. Perhaps the items that are at the time of the game in his field of vision, stimulate his imagination and affect the changes in the script, which he comes up with for his hero. Or maybe it's just inspiring contemplation of his treasures. The baby's room is his personal territory, it is here that he learns to organize space based on his own tastes and needs, and the creation of chaos, confusion, disorder is necessary to him at least in order to assess the advantages of order. If toys accumulate in your house over time, reduce the number of those that are freely available. Designers with a lot of small parts, board games, pencils and paints can be stored high on the shelves, and some of the soft toys, cubes, etc. - temporarily hide. When after a while you will get them from the mezzanine, the child will rejoice at least as much as the new one. Toys, from which the baby has already "grown", is best conveyed or taken to a kindergarten, and broken - to throw. Things that you decided to leave may need to be re-grouped in a new way, taking into account the changed interests of the child. Tip: hide and throw away broken toys better when the child is not at home, but do cleaning instead of it is not worth it. If you are consistent, maybe after a while the kid will learn to be more careful without long notations and accusations from your side: first, he will remember where everything lies, and he will not have to take everything out of the box for the sake of a single transformer, secondly , most likely, will not want to spend extra time cleaning.
It is difficult to resist the temptation to give the child a tablet or to sit him in front of the TV and quickly remove everything himself. But is it worth to lose the opportunity to teach his responsibility? Children need to know that they are involved in a common cause and benefit the family!Your example is his science
"My daughters (3 and 4 and a half years) throw their soft toys every day around the house. Even in the toilet and in the hallway you can stumble upon teddy bears and dogs, and recently I dug out a whole rabbit family from the dishwasher! How to cope with this invasion? ". Alisa, 28 years old
Almost all children unconsciously try to fill with their things the maximum possible area - so they "tag" the territory or, if you want, master space. In some families, this is treated as an inevitable phenomenon, and the whole apartment looks like one big child. But in fact, even a three- and four-year-old child can be taught to respect the personal space of other family members. First of all - a personal example. You can show that you are considering the desire of the baby to have toys in each room at hand, putting in time in each of them a box for cars and dolls. But only on the condition that at the end of the day they will go to their place, that is, back to the nursery! Secondly, consistently explaining and showing the child that he is a member of the family, the group. If someone has scattered things, there must be someone who will collect them. If someone has dirty the floor with paint, there must be someone who will wash it. This is the basis of life in society! In two or three years, most children are able not only to collect and fold toys, but also to put magazines and books on the shelf, put out the light, leave the room, sweep the floor, lay out instruments and napkins on the table, water the flowers, unload the dishes from the dishwasher ... The list of household cases that a four-year-old is able to perform is much longer. He can already be instructed:
- Cover the table - Feed the pets - Fix the bed - Vacuum the carpet - Wipe off the dust - Peel off the leftover food from the plates and load the dishwasher - Make sandwiches and prepare flakes with milk.Do whatever you want!
"My son Slava is 4 years old. He likes to build huge complex designs from "Lego" and arranges a real drama, if someone, besides him, breaks something in them. We have a small child, and it is constantly filled up with details of the designer, ready and unfinished buildings, and in fact in this room there lives also Slavin a three-year-old brother! "Maria, 36 years old
In the issue of placing crafts, children's paintings, collections and structures from the designer will have to show flexibility and find a reasonable compromise. Even in a small room, it's really possible to find a place on the wall for a couple of extra shelves, where the kid can place his best creations or especially valuable exhibits. The unfinished tower can easily be moved from the center of the room to a corner or under the bed, if you collect it on a large board or on a rug. With a child it is easier to agree when he sees that you respect and appreciate his efforts, and on cleaning you insist not to defeat him, but because of common sense. By the way, the talents of the five-year-old architect can be used, planning the organization of space in the nursery. The child can think of how to place boxes and shelves, where to put the bed better, and where to equip the playing area. Write down all the ideas of the baby and be sure to tell the guests about his ingenuity!
Ability to use a brush and a rag is equally useful for the development of fine motor skills, than sculpting figurines from plasticine or folding pyramids! But cleaning also has an additional "bonus" - this is an "adult" skill, the mastery of which fills the crumb with special pride.Read on this topic:
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